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I saw several links to articles about this book, guy, and topic, but I didn't click on any of them. I was excited then when Offline did a podcast with him and it's interesting and some good advice about thinking about relationships. I especially enjoyed about halfway through when they're talking about maintaining relationships and how to think about getting over the inertia of life (or any other barriers) to go make plans with friends.

Dr. Robert Waldinger, Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, joins Offline to talk about his new book “The Good Life: Lessons From the Longest Study on Happiness.” Bob and Jon discuss how close relationships are the secret to a fulfilling life, why technology can make us lonelier, and what 84 years of data teach us about coming together and growing apart.

I will apologize for that first ad read. They are kinda stuck on 'back of the throat' jokes.

Speaking of plans with friends, now that I'm on day shift and I have Fri/Sat off for the first time ever, I have the chance to go do things with people. There was no easing in period. Last week I went to Broken Arrow to see friends. We went to brunch and shopped a little in the Rose District. They have big rooster statues. Then we went back to M's house and did trivia for fun and non-profit. I really enjoyed it and didn't feel like I'd wasted a chance to rest on my day off, so I hope I continue to push through the inertia.

My brother called last Sunday pulling that whole 'I'm a terrible brother, I'm so sorry I haven't called, hey do you want to do something this weekend?' and somehow not only did I get talked into going to see Avatar, a movie I did not want to see, but also, I had to find a theater still playing it in 2D at a time when ancient uncle Larry (not really an uncle to me, but is to brother) can go, and buy the tickets. Fine. I'm going to spend all day down in the city now so that I have some fun. Museum first, then I found a hoity toity restaurant where it is easy to order out from (I am excited about the tuna tartare!), gonna take that food to a park at the lake, then go up to the mall where the theater is, shop a bit, then meet the boys. Sadly drive through the scary traffic in the dark on the way home.

Apparently I've been lying about not liking concerts for at least a while. I've told people they're boring and too long and loud. Well, this last concert was an adventure.

First it started pouring rain in the afternoon, and the doors open time got pushed back from 5:30 to 6:30, and eventually 7:30. It wasn't pouring, but I had the hood of my hoodie up while we waited in line. I'm so glad I remembered to pack it at the last moment. Spent all night irritatingly damp but otherwise fine while the rain moved away and we were sitting under the roof in actual stadium seats.

The first act was Robert Earl Keen and it was . . . bad. I thought, yes, vindication (in a Raymond Holt voice) concerts are stupid. I could only understand a handful of words and the sound system was completely jacked. Several people in line had come to see him specifically so I assumed that was the best it would get.

Friends and enemies, I was very wrong.

The Avett Brothers were much more high energy, and they had the lights, smoke, and camera system cues working for them. Most importantly the sound system made them loud but balanced and I could hear all the part and actually understand all the words even the songs I didn't know. Probably this only worked for me because I've been following this group for idk, more than ten years maybe? I had such a good, laid back time. I wore my mask and because of the rain and late start, the place was not packed. Nobody touched me. I came home with that poster up there and a tshirt.

The rest of the trip was good, I caught up with Ruth and tried to encourage her with all the stuff she's trying to get better at like cleaning her apartment and some sort of new therapy she's doing. We went to Crystal Bridges Art Museum. This Portrait of Bob was one of my favorites.

The dogs were very happy to get back into the house and the air conditioning when I got home on Saturday.

You know if there's a week I hate more than any other, it's the first week of May. I don't know how the memes got under my skin so bad, but I detest both "It's gonna be. . ." and "May the Fourth" just, miss me with those lazy messes.

justmarriedexchange is open for nominations and depending on there being enough requests that I think I could do, I think I'd like to play in it this year. I have accidentally fallen back in love with the mail-order-spouse trope.

I want to try to change things up and submit some art type stuff to the marvel reverse big bang. I bought that tablet last summer because I needed it immediately, but I couldn't keep the practice habit up. I want to start taking it to work to help pass those incredibly long hours, but I guess it'll depend on if I can find the charging cord.

I will be yelling about the FF7Remake soon. I don't think I'm a fan, and I'm very sad. Cloud though, if nothing else, this has made me a Cloud fan.

Friend came over and destroyed the demonic bush that has terrorized me and the mail man for years. It's one of those gross ones with multiple shoots from the ground that just keep growing forever and have to be cut back multiple times a summer. Die, scum, die! I paid for this service with a neck buff and a ziplock bag of those peanutbutter cornflake noncookies I loved so much from waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back in the day of summer church camp.

We've been playing Disney Villainous at work the last couple of days (it's a holiday weekend and all the kids went home) and it is so FUN! You play as one of the villains - Maleficent, Ursula, Jafar, Prince John, Queen of Hearts, Captain Hook, each of which has their own pieces, board and objectives. It's so re-playable because picking a different villain often changes your play style. The game is really pretty, the art is interesting, and the mechanics are easy to understand. Plus, it's just so fun to be bad. I played as Hook the last time, and the other two kept fucking with me until I finally yelled Just let me kill this prepubescent boy already! then I finally won and it was so satisfying.

( a quick how to play video )
There are two available expansion packs and another on the way. I'm going to but the one with Ratigan, Yzma, and Scar and I'm excited. Playing Yzma is apparently fun and quirky because Kronk can be turned good and cause all sorts of havoc.

( actual work nonsense )

Dolittle is apparently so bad, but not the fun kind of bad. It has a metacritic score of 27 In comparison, Cats has a meta score of 32! Critics wonder if Downey sabotaged the movie on purpose by being terrible and this guy is asking if Downey is actually any good at acting

After reading the review mentioning the excess of fart jokes, I think I'll give it a pass.

So I already worked my 8 hours on Monday + 8 hours of holiday pay = a slightly happier paycheck. And June is a 3 paycheck month!

M and K came over today to pick up the dog I was sitting and we went out to dinner. Well I had dinner breakfast. Being Monday and a holiday our options were limited and we ended up at my last choice. I tried their tacos, but the corn tortillas were really gross. Alas, but I sodaed and that made me happy. We really just talked about what everyone was rewatching on streaming sites, and wow are we old and boring.

I'm into season six of Buffy, and I don't know if it's A's fault or not, but wow can I not stand Xander and the trio is the worst. I just want Anya to be happy making lots of money somewhere. I remember when I first watched it, I was still in college and pre my first job. (Which also ended up being fast food.) I was so embarrassed for Buffy, and I hated Anya and how desperate she was for money and Xander's attention. Now, it's y'know some sort of pride I feel that Buffy is doing the hard work of taking care of stuff, and I also get how security is important for both women. I love that Buffy is a show that works no matter where you are in life, and rewatching does let you see things differently.

Okay, so I've probably slept more in the last two days than I did in the last two weeks put together. I escaped Oktoberfest with a horrible sunburn, three splinters, and a broken pinky toe after losing ten pounds. I only managed to eat one side of potato salad, but I think I ate about a dozen schnitzel sandwiches. Me and roommate number 3 are still hoping for death, but hopefully we'll get our mojo back this week.



I have sucked hard in my Pick'em sheets for the last two weeks. Mostly, I randomly checked boxes, but I'm gonna get in the zone starting this week. If you wanted to join, do it, because you can still make up some ground! ESPN gives you ten college games to pick a week and you arrange them by how confident you are that you're right. This is our group and the password is: livejournal.



Did I mention that I went to see Don't Be Afraid of the Dark and I hated it? Katie Holmes was not good, and the movie made classic horror movie mistakes. However, it did inspire the plot I'm gonna write for my Teen Wolf Halloween story. It's gonna be scary, guys. Scary and awesome. : )


I'm behind on everything, so I'm very sorry for late comments that pop up in the next couple of days. I'm trying to write sequels and it's just not happening. I might go troll the kink meme for an easy prompt to pop out. Feel free to point me at something if you'd like. My brain still feels like mush.

I watched Final Fantasy VII: Advent Children and I was amazed at how good it was. Some parts were quite silly, but I was hoping that it would just be watchable and instead I get this gorgeous story and picture. I totally fell in love with Reno, he's just so cute and ... well ... queer. He definitely wants Clouds ass and is oblivious to Rude's crush on him. I couldn't help it, I had to go looking for icons immediately after I finished watching it.

The wedding I went to turned out well. The first time I walked into the sanctuary, I freaked out. I don't think I'm going to be ready for marriage for a long long time if ever. My shoes totally broke my feet though, they still hurt, but I guess that's what I get for helping decorate before the wedding, ushering, helping with the reception, and then tearing everything down afterward. Still, S was very pretty, and it was neat to share in part of the day.

I finished a scene for lyric_ficathon and I was hoping someone would have the time to read through it and point out the obvious mistakes/typos before I post to the comm. I'd appreciate it. It's Daniel/Cameron 600 words of blow job.


( Love is a Verb )

I'm playing through The Lord of the Rings: The Third Age finally after having stared at it in my little brother's room for the past year. It's amusing, I really like listening to the music that goes along with it. I suppose I could finally get around to buying the other soundtracks for the movies now.

Also, Cameron finally decided to clue me into his Southern Baptist upbringing, (I know, I'm a bit slow on the uptake sometimes) unleashing a torrent of issues and nuances for current and future fics. Fear me.

Today is my first day off in over a week. Boy it's been nice not to have to worry about getting dressed and leaving my house. My roommate has been watching the Atlantis marathon on sci-fi, but they're all eps that I've seen already so I've been reading/writing/playing games on the other side of the living room. Two TVs, laptops and ceiling fans are very good things.

I'm still working on the ficlette requests from the first of this month. They'll come out eventually, I swear!

New icon, I giggled for several minutes straight [no pun intended].

So, I totally meant to update yesterday, but I was distracted first by cleaning up the spectacular YUK that had taken over my kitchen and living room since the last time I cleaned. (Which, admittedly was the last time my parents came to visit last November. I suck.) I'm still in the process of cleaning my room (I can kinda see the floor now) and the bathroom (Oh God, give me strength). Other people go skiing or to the beach for Spring Break, I clean. Yeah...

The second thing that distracted me was David Hewlett in Boa vs Python which OMG horrible, awful Sci-Fi with horrible, awful acting, plot, and special effects, that you should all see before you die because hilarity ensued and I wished I would have had someone to watch it with.

NCAA picks came out on Sunday, and I'm not going to into how utterly wrong they are. Not that we expected to get in, (but a sixth seed in the NIT is no picnic either) but wow. So my cracktastic Final Four picks are: Texas vs. Gonzaga and Tennessee vs. Villanova with the Championship Game Gonzaga beating Villanova 69-67. Just watch and see, it'll happen when hell freezes over.

I wanna make a post later about my favorite elements, kinks, plots, and turn-ons are in fandom and fic. *note to self*

I want my roommate to come back, the house is too quiet.

Last night, accompanied by my ex roommate who moved to hell, the girl down the street that doesn't talk above a whisper, a friend from high school, and the Boy Who Bruised My Heart, I went to see a DCI show. I think this is my fourth to go see, and finally, my favorite corps won, the Madison Scouts!

So, of course, I wanted to share the hotness that is boys wearing uniforms and bonding together for months on end and what I found surprised even me. Apparently the majority of their time is spent walking around half-naked and hugging (in the they couldn't show it on the Disney channel way). HERE

And a preview just in case you don't believe me.

I have that shirt!




And of course, the all-male-color guard led to inappropriate thoughts on my behalf, which in turn (logically, of course) led to me thinking about what the Star Wars universe would do with a drum corps. Anakin would be the drama queen saber leader, Obi-Wan would play the horn, Mace would play low brass, the Sith would comprise the drum line, and Yoda the director, would be.

Thus, this sillyness was born.

( I saw you looking at me. )